The Politics of Love + questions you may ask....
Being
newly in love,
it is often very difficult to act in a concerned
and polite manner where others are concerned.
We are so fixated on the
object of our passion,
but often we act in a
way that
normally would be unthinkable to us…We
monopolise ‘ the beloved’ to the point of embarrassment where our
friends family and the general public are concerned, and we simply do
not know or see that we are doing this!
Gazing
constantly into someone's eyes
in an adoring fashion is fine when the two of you
are together, but doing it in public when people are trying to have a
conversation with you, or at a party or group, where you would
reasonably be expected to contribute the general ambience of the
evening, can be annoying that everyone else concerned.
Yes,
love tends to make this a little bit selfish and self-centred.
Eventually we
come out of our a closed cocoon with ‘ the beloved’ and expect everyone
to act normally around us and accepted back into their society! And
often they simply does not happen. Often we have caused so much
annoyance to those friends closest to us, that they really don't want to
know!
In love, as in all things,
we should strive to keep a balance in the way we
treat others and treat ourselves. Throwing ourselves
wholeheartedly into a relationship is one thing, but causing hurt and
embarrassment to others whilst we are doing this is quite unacceptable
and unnecessary.
Keeping
everyone in the loop
and letting them know that you
are in a new and intense relationship may well help, without going into
details, simply letting people know that this is something new and
vitally important in your life, will allow others to create space that
this and to take a back seat a little from a while whilst the
relationship is at its most new and most exclusive time…. friends will
simply wait to you to re-emerge into their society and will welcome you!
Being in love is
no excuse for hurting other people! We need to remember that we
will not always be ‘ in love’ with this person even though we may love
them for the rest of our lives… we will still need our friends when the
passion has turned to something far more settled and concrete!
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