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Love!
Love….what
is it good for??
What is this strange state of
mind, that makes us act like
idiots a great deal of the time, and makes us forget our direction and our goals
in life albeit temporarily?
Is
it an illness?
Or is it simply an extremely powerful device of
nature to make us procreate at the right time?
Has anyone ever actually
got to grips with understanding what ‘Love’ actually does to us
emotionally, mentally, and physically? We can be happily pursuing our
course in life, closely involved in whatever it is we are involved in at
that time, then without any warning ‘Bang!’ love hits us… and knocks us
for six! If we
didn’t take it for granted,
it is possible that we would treat
this as we would some kind of illness, because it acts like an illness.
It changes our personality (often the worst!) And it makes us do and
except things that previously we would have thought unthinkable.
The problem is what to do about it?
It seems as
if once we have ‘fallen in love’ we are lost! There is really not much
we can do about it except let it run its course and see where it takes
us, and it can be a life changing or shattering experience for some.
Fine, if the object of your affection feels the same way as you do, then
you are on the road to one of
the most wonderful joint experiences in the whole world (possibly the
universe!)
But unrequited love
is one of the most dreadful things! We mope and moan and become
obsessive about the object of our affection.
It seems as if
we can not see any further than this, and sometimes, in some people who
have obsessive natures, this can take them into the realms of stalking
and obsessing about the object of their affection to the detriment of
the other person’s health and well-being.
How amazingly strong
is an emotion that can do this to us! If it were anything else it would
be classed as an illness and treated with some kind of drug and
cognitive behavioural therapy, but we except love for what it is, and we
feel great compassion for those who are thwarted in love, or who have
been left by their loved one, perhaps because the loved one had decided
to move on, or because the death, the final great decider had
intervened.
 So
what to do about it?
There is
actually only one thing if it is a reciprocal situation, then there is
no problem, love is something that you can throw yourself into
wholeheartedly and allow it to wash over you in the most wonderful and
ecstatic way! In the natural course of events it will gradually calmed
down and change into something far more lasting and productive. This is
the difference between love, and ‘being in love’.If
it is ‘unrequited love’,
then it is more difficult, and may require some kind of counselling or
help for the person involved to realise that they have to work on simply
‘letting go’
No one deserves the trauma
of feeling is that they are being hounded and stalked by someone for
whom they have no feelings one way or the other!
If we allow this
to develop within our society, then we are treading a very dangerous and
ultimately self-destructive path….the answer here is to seek help as
quickly as you can, and even sitting with a sympathetic friend who will
reflect back to you that there is no hope in the situation may have a
very beneficial effect, and in fact may be all the help that you need at
that time!
Because if we do not address this,
then we often do not see what we are doing, convinced as we are
that the person is for us, no matter how many indications we get
to the contrary.
I believe that in love, as in any other conditions
that we experience, we need to recognize immediately what has happened
and be prepared for the consequences…. We cannot help Falling in Love,
it is something that simply happens to us….but as reasonable, logical
and evolved beings, we can make sure that we never allow our state of
mind to impinge on that of another necessarily or in a negative way.
Love should be an ecstatic
state of mind between
two beings who feel totally in tune for whatever reason, it may be the
thing that inspires us to do more than we ordinarily would, to create
wonderful things, and to allow our artistic/creative side to blossom.
 Some
of the most wonderful works of art and poetry have been created out of
pure ‘Love’!
Perhaps it is truly 'Love'
that makes the world go round no matter how difficult it is at times!
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Politics of LOVE
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